By Sophia Vassiliou*
The word “magic” is usually associated with something supernatural, almost unreal. Today, however, we also use the term to describe something so beautiful and special which rises above the harsh reality of everyday life. That is why we often hear about the “Magic of Christmas” — a season filled with lights, decorations, gifts, celebrations, parties, and food. In one word: glam! In the age of social media, the pressure to appear happier, brighter, more “magical” becomes even more intense.
It is natural for people to want to escape, even briefly, from the difficulties of daily life. Yet in its modern form — where consumerism and display dominate — Christmas creates an unbearable pressure to live up to these standards of “magic.”
You often hear people around you talking about the stress they feel: decorating, buying gifts and clothes fit for the festive season, cooking, organizing or attending parties, and making sure everyone is happy — as if all problems have magically disappeared.
According to recent European data:
- Nearly 1 in 2 Europeans report experiencing symptoms of anxiety or depressive mood within a year.
- About 13% of EU citizens often or constantly feel lonely, a feeling that intensifies during periods of “mandatory happiness” such as Christmas.
- Loneliness and psychological strain are more pronounced among young people, older adults, and those facing financial pressure.
Holiday pressure stems from a combination of factors:
- Financial stress. The increased cost of living, gifts, festive meals, and social obligations creates guilt and anxiety, especially for households already struggling.
- Social expectations. The image of the “perfect family celebration” leaves little room for those who are grieving, alone, in conflicted or oppressive relationships, or who simply do not feel happy.
- Loneliness amid the noise. Many people may feel isolated, and this experience becomes more intense when everyone around them “has to” be happy.
- Mental exhaustion. The end of the year comes after months of pressure, work burnout, and uncertainty. Holidays are not always a time of rest, but often just another obligation.
Across Europe, calls to psychological support helplines increase every December, and specialists report a worsening of anxiety and depression symptoms before and immediately after the holidays.
We have all heard of Blue Monday — considered the most depressing day of the year, associated with the post-holiday slump and the return to reality with strained finances.
I do not mention these things to diminish the joy of Christmas, but to offer food for thought: perhaps it is time to change our expectations of this period. To let go of the idea of perfection and experience it with more empathy and understanding — toward others, but above all toward ourselves.
Let us try during this season to be kinder to ourselves and those around us, without excess, giving ourselves time to relax and enjoy the true meaning of this period without pressure.
Let us aim to be gentler with ourselves and others, free from excess and anxiety. Let us give ourselves the space and time to unwind, to breathe, and to live the true meaning of Christmas — with peace, love, and simplicity.
For those who feel pressure or loneliness, remember that you are not alone. Do not hesitate to ask for help — talk to a neighbour, a relative, a friend. In addition, there are psychological support lines and organizations that can listen and help whenever needed:
- Psychological Support Line 1471— M-F 9am-9pm/ Weekends 10am-2pm.
- Public Mental Health Services
- Cyprus Samaritans- 80007773
Additionally, there are organizations and centres in Cyprus that offer psychological support and counselling.
Asking for help is a sign of strength and self-care.
Caring for our mental health is the most valuable gift we can give ourselves this holiday season.
*Sophia Vassiliou is a Member of the Political Council of Volt Cyprus Market Insights Expert | Certified Yoga Therapist